What to Do When You’re Falling Behind

When I was a kid, it took me longer than I would have liked to learn how to ride a bike. I kept using a bike with training wheels and I didn’t practice much, so of course I didn’t learn how to balance. One day I observed that my sister (younger by 2.5 years) was […]

What to Do When You’re Falling Behind

When I was a kid, it took me longer than I would have liked to learn how to ride a bike. I kept using a bike with training wheels and I didn’t practice much, so of course I didn’t learn how to balance. One day I observed that my sister (younger by 2.5 years) was […]

The Spiritual Path of Veganism

At the time of this writing, I’ve been vegan for more than 18 years (vegetarian for 22 years). I’ve already written about transitioning to veganism, which I did during the 1990s. This time I’ll share some thoughts and feelings about what it’s like to be vegan as opposed to becoming vegan, especially with respect to living in a […]

The Time When We’ll Be Present & Content

By Leo Babauta Today, I only have questions. We’re striving for happiness and contentment, but when will we be there? I think we often see a time in the future when things will be better — we’ll have a better relationship, job, house, health situation, financial situation, and more. But when will that day come? […]

The Time When We’ll Be Present & Content

By Leo Babauta Today, I only have questions. We’re striving for happiness and contentment, but when will we be there? I think we often see a time in the future when things will be better — we’ll have a better relationship, job, house, health situation, financial situation, and more. But when will that day come? […]

A Simple, Powerful Self-Compassion Method

By Leo Babauta When we’re frustrated with others, or feeling bad about ourselves … we often turn toward habits that comfort us: distractions food shopping smoking drugs/alcohol These don’t often work, because they tend to make us feel worse in the long run. We become unhappier, more stressed, and then need to seek comfort in […]

When Others Frustrate You

By Leo Babauta There’s a way of being that I’m trying to cultivate in myself — to let go of wanting others to be a certain way. Here’s the problem: we all get frustrated with other people. We want our kids to do certain things, our spouses to be less something or other, our friends to […]

Your Internet Habits Create Your Reality

By Leo Babauta Each of us has a different reality. And we’re creating that reality, and can shape it in many ways. We tend to think of reality as something external and absolute, like the sun shining down on us on a hot, lazy afternoon. That sun is really there, whether we believe it or […]

Getting Started with D/s Play

Occasionally people ask me how to get started with D/s play (aka domination and submission) with a willing partner. Sometimes they don’t know what questions to ask or where to begin. So this article is specifically for such people who’d like a gentle introduction to D/s play and some tips to get started. I think this […]