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In psychology there are three general ways to relate to other people, depending on how you interpret and manage emotional risk. You can avoid deep emotional investments in people (avoidant attachment). You can try to control other people (anxious attachment). You can intelligently bond with people and invest in secure relationships (secure attachment). You can…
You may have heard about the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset and how important a growth mindset is for self-development. You may not have considered how important a growth heartset is too. While a growth mindset is wonderful, it’s not enough. There are plenty of people with growth mindsets who struggle,…
One thing I love about interesting commitments is that they can guarantee that I’ll have a certain kind of year. This requires that I pick a commitment that’s close to 100% under my direct control, so there are no significant risky external points of failure. This year I guaranteed that I’d do a lot of…
How would you rate your current relationship with texting on a scale of 1 to 10? A 1 means you really need to improve how you use this tool. A 10 means you’re using the tool in a way that works very well for you, and other people who text you understand and respect your…
One reason people succumb to digital clutter like clogged inboxes and excessive browser tabs is that they’re being too clingy with digital content. There’s an overwhelm of digital content, and you may feel the need to capture and save lots of it, hopefully to be digested later. Having an intelligent capture system can help, but…
A common sign that you have a weak or under-utilized system for capturing and organizing your tasks and projects is that you’re trying to use some non-system as a substitute. This includes bad habits such as these: Leaving browser tabs open that aren’t related to the current task Leaving emails sitting in your inbox after…
I had a great realization when going through Dr. Julie Helmrich’s Science of Conflict course recently. One idea from that course helped me make sense of an issue that had been popping up now and then in my relationships. She noted that a key reason that people become defensive during conflict is that their inner…
By Leo Babauta These days, it’s always nice to have reminders to become present, to pause into stillness, and to calm ourselves down. Chaos rules most of our lives, and every reminder we get can be helpful. Today I’m going to share some simple practices that won’t be new to most of you, but that […]
It scares me when people tell me they have 10+ web browser tabs regularly open at the same time. For some it’s well into the dozens. This isn’t intelligent behavior; it will have a negative impact on your mental functioning if you make this a habit. How is it possible to have 10+ browser tabs…
During my late teens, each time I got caught shoplifting and had to deal with the consequences, my mind would dwell on what I could have done differently. I went over and over different actions I could have taken to avoid the arrest. This helped me get better at shoplifting. Each arrest or near-arrest made…