Ass-Kicking Frames

Here’s a really simple idea that can be useful for self-motivation. Sometimes our frames are too flabby, giving us lots of leeway to drop the ball and slack off. In such cases it may be useful to adopt harsher frames, at least temporarily, to demand more from ourselves. Here are some of these ass-kicking frames…

Appreciation Density

In the past 11 weeks, I’ve lost an average of 1.15 pounds per week, mainly just by logging what I eat. This simple practice has helped me tweak and adjust my meal choices even though I’m still eating the same foods as I was previously. I’m eating less food in terms of calories, but my…

Caring vs Pretending to Care

One is a squishy, emotional, heartfelt hug with bright, shining smiles. The other is a grayscale photocopy of a hug photo. Visually they’re both easily identifiable as hugs. Experientially they’re vastly different, and when given, they land very differently with the receiver. Pretending to care can still lead to a contribution, albeit one bereft of…

Where’s the Fire?

Now and then I like to ask myself: Where’s the FIRE? Other variations on this question include: Where’s the fun? Where’s the energy? Where’s the fear? Where’s the spark? Where’s the trepidation? Where’s the explosiveness? Where’s the Do Not Enter sign? Where are the dragons? Where’s the passion? Where’s the excitement? Where’s the liveliness? Where’s…

Power Challenges

Since Trump is doing such a hideous job on his re-election campaign, some analysts are concluding that he’s deliberately trying to sabotage himself. They suggest that he’s putting out strong indications that he really doesn’t want the job for another four years (or that he doesn’t expect to get re-elected). One example is that he…

Overcoming Phony Politeness

You may think of maintaining your boundaries as something you need to do to protect yourself, but practicing good boundary management for yourself can actually serve the people around you very well too. Your boundaries define what you’re willing to allow into your life. You decide the types of people you’ll associate with and to…

Appreciating Your Intelligence and Rationality

I just want to take a moment to express appreciation to you (and all of my readers) for your intelligence and rationality – and your open-heartedness as well – during these incredible shifts that we’re all living through. This has surely been a year of change – and can you believe we’re not even halfway…

Are You Seeking the Approval of Your Limiting Beliefs?

You don’t have to overcome limiting beliefs in order to take action. Thinking that you need to get all your beliefs in order is really just a delay tactic, isn’t it? Fixing your beliefs is an unnecessary prerequisite for action. Thinking that you need to fix your beliefs first is akin to convincing a doubtful…

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Fear Is an Invitation

It’s common to frame fear as a signal that there’s something scary to avoid, but consider what long-term effect this framing will have. It means that decade after decade, you’ll keep avoiding what you fear. You’ll leave those aspects of life perpetually unexplored. What if you do the opposite? What if you frame fear as…

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