Category: Relationships

Direct Core Relationships

Direct Core Relationships

Have you thought much about the core relationships you’d like to cultivate with life, such as your relationships with work, people, physical reality, your body, government, creativity, entertainment, time, food, intimacy, home, etc? You surely have many specific instances of these relationships showing up in your life, such as a particular job or family member.…

Harnessing the Power of Reframing to Enhance Your Personal Growth

Harnessing the Power of Reframing to Enhance Your Personal Growth

In my personal growth journey, I frequently use a transformative tool known as reframing. Reframing is the process of shifting our perspectives (or frames) to better understand and navigate our experiences. This tool is transformative because our framing directly impacts how we perceive situations, make decisions, and ultimately, shape our lives. It’s not just about…

The Beauty of Conflict

The Beauty of Conflict

Conflict. It’s a word that can strike fear into the hearts of many, especially those who consider themselves “spiritual” people. After all, isn’t the goal of spirituality to move beyond conflict and find inner peace? Conflict is not something to be feared or avoided. Conflict is a powerful aspect of human life to embrace and…

How to Relate to People With Low Truth Alignment

How to Relate to People With Low Truth Alignment

The first chapter of my book Personal Development for Smart People is called “Truth” because truth alignment is one of the fundamental principles of personal growth. In order to grow intelligently, we must face and accept reality in as many areas of life as we can. This often involves confronting and dealing with unpleasant truths…

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5 Keys to Social Alignment

What is an aligned social circle? When people ponder improving their social lives, what do they actually want? For the past two weeks, I’ve been reading and taking detailed notes on feedback from some questions that I posed to my email list. I asked people to tell me about their social circles, including what’s working…

What Is a Deeper Relationship?

As I’ve been reading through recent feedback emails regarding the upcoming Guild course, I’ve seen various expressions of a desire for “deeper relationships.” What does that actually mean? Many people shared that their current social circle feels too fragmented. They have their work associates, their family relationships, their online friends, and perhaps a few other…

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101 Reframes for a Richer Social Life

Yesterday I brainstormed a list of reframes that I’ve found useful at various times for exploring a better social life. I shared this in the Conscious Growth Club forums and felt that it would be nice to share it here as well. A frame (or reframe) is a way of looking at reality and assigning…

Enthusiastic Consent

Enthusiastic Consent

When you invite someone to have a shared experience together, professionally or personally, and consent is given grudgingly, this tells you that the invitation isn’t very aligned. Even if you’re ostensibly getting a yes, there are probably some unresolved objections behind that yes, so you’re getting a compromised version of a yes. This in itself…