Fragile Objections

Suppose you’re sitting in a Toastmasters meeting where members are practicing their speaking skills. Suppose there are about 20 members in the room, which would be pretty typical for a Toastmasters club. Now suppose you hear a fellow member give a speech that you find objectionable, and it bothers you to hear such words spoken…

Will You Ring the Bell?

During Navy SEALs training, which is really tough, recruits can quit by ringing a bell three times. Then they get a shower and a hot meal, and they’re done with the struggle. No more physical ordeals. No more being wet and sandy. No more sleep deprivation. And no more opportunity to be part of a…

Will You Ring the Bell?

During Navy SEALs training, which is really tough, recruits can quit by ringing a bell three times. Then they get a shower and a hot meal, and they’re done with the struggle. No more physical ordeals. No more being wet and sandy. No more sleep deprivation. And no more opportunity to be part of a…

Behaviors, Consequences, and Alignment

By supporting Trump a person supports: Racist ideas and policies Sexist ideas and policies Xenophobic ideas and policies Anti-science ideas and policies Anti-environment ideas and policies Massive amounts of outright lying (20K+ false and misleading statements in 3.5 years) Massive amounts of incompetence Treasonous collusion Direct election interference Tweeting instead of leading Tons of utter…

Fragile vs Resilient Relationships

My relationship with Rachelle is very anti-fragile. Even when one or both of us is at our worst or when there’s a lot of turmoil going on around us, there’s little risk to our relationship. We can say or do the stupidest things, and we still stick like glue. We have plenty of freedom to…

Stamped From the Beginning

Today I finished Ibram X. Kendi’s book Stamped From the Beginning, which is about the history of racist ideas in the USA. I found it insightful and eye-opening, and it gave me some meaningful perspective shifts on racism. I’m glad I read this book after White Fragility because the former book was much more lightweight,…

Why I Like My Life So Much

I did some reflection in my journal about why I like my life so much. Here’s what I came up with: Space for Reflection I like that my life isn’t overloaded with so much activity. Sometimes I get really busy, but over the course of a year and during most months of the year, I…

Core of Play

While pondering an update to my mission statement, I was thinking about how to frame relationships, and this line popped into my mind: My relationships are based on play. My relationship with Rachelle fits this like a glove, and I think it’s why we’ve had 10+ happy years together. Same goes for my best friendships.…

Seeking the Final Straw

Here’s an interesting pattern: When people are heading towards a major transition, they often wait for a “final straw” incident before making a move. In other words they wait until some arbitrary event happens that’s good enough to quality as the final reason that pushes them over the edge. So an incident happens at work,…

White Fragility

Earlier this week I read the book White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo, which is about how resistant white people can be when it comes to discussing and learning about systemic racism. I thought the book had some interesting insights, although it was more academic and less emotional than I expected. I was expecting something punchier…