Category: Relationships

How to Relate to People With Low Truth Alignment

How to Relate to People With Low Truth Alignment

The first chapter of my book Personal Development for Smart People is called “Truth” because truth alignment is one of the fundamental principles of personal growth. In order to grow intelligently, we must face and accept reality in as many areas of life as we can. This often involves confronting and dealing with unpleasant truths…

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5 Keys to Social Alignment

What is an aligned social circle? When people ponder improving their social lives, what do they actually want? For the past two weeks, I’ve been reading and taking detailed notes on feedback from some questions that I posed to my email list. I asked people to tell me about their social circles, including what’s working…

What Is a Deeper Relationship?

As I’ve been reading through recent feedback emails regarding the upcoming Guild course, I’ve seen various expressions of a desire for “deeper relationships.” What does that actually mean? Many people shared that their current social circle feels too fragmented. They have their work associates, their family relationships, their online friends, and perhaps a few other…

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101 Reframes for a Richer Social Life

Yesterday I brainstormed a list of reframes that I’ve found useful at various times for exploring a better social life. I shared this in the Conscious Growth Club forums and felt that it would be nice to share it here as well. A frame (or reframe) is a way of looking at reality and assigning…

Enthusiastic Consent

Enthusiastic Consent

When you invite someone to have a shared experience together, professionally or personally, and consent is given grudgingly, this tells you that the invitation isn’t very aligned. Even if you’re ostensibly getting a yes, there are probably some unresolved objections behind that yes, so you’re getting a compromised version of a yes. This in itself…

Aligned Solutions

Aligned Solutions

Aligning your life can be very challenging. By alignment I’m referring to harmonious interactions among your: thoughts feelings frames / perspectives lifestyle living situation relationships values desires goals intentions work finances health body family friendships social life personality We all have misalignments to deal with in one of more areas of life. Are you actively…

Your Relationship With Your Alarm Clock

Your Relationship With Your Alarm Clock

If you use an alarm clock to wake up in the morning, think about relationship you’d like to create with your alarm clock. What would be the healthiest and happiest version of that relationship for you? If you were an alarm clock, what kind of relationship would you want to have with your human? For…

Alignment and Diversity

Alignment and Diversity

For the annual launch of Conscious Growth Club last month, I mentioned before that I focused on alignment instead of growth. I deliberately avoided investing in obvious pathways to growth that might attract members who wouldn’t be so well aligned with CGC’s values and culture. Interestingly, CGC grew in size by about 20%, and CGC’s…

Relational Goals

Relational Goals

A nice way to identify goals, especially for the New Year, is to clarify how you’d like to upgrade your relationships with different aspects of life. Then identify and commit to action-based goals that you expect would improve these relationships. For example, you have a relationship with: money your body each key person in your…