Fragile Objections

Suppose you’re sitting in a Toastmasters meeting where members are practicing their speaking skills. Suppose there are about 20 members in the room, which would be pretty typical for a Toastmasters club. Now suppose you hear a fellow member give a speech that you find objectionable, and it bothers you to hear such words spoken…

Racism and Self-Interest

Last week I finished the book How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi. It gave me a lot to ponder, especially the frame that racism stems from self-interest. There were some chapters sharing how racism links up with sexism, anti-LGBTQ stances, and other social justice issues. How this links up with animal rights…

Will You Ring the Bell?

During Navy SEALs training, which is really tough, recruits can quit by ringing a bell three times. Then they get a shower and a hot meal, and they’re done with the struggle. No more physical ordeals. No more being wet and sandy. No more sleep deprivation. And no more opportunity to be part of a…

Will You Ring the Bell?

During Navy SEALs training, which is really tough, recruits can quit by ringing a bell three times. Then they get a shower and a hot meal, and they’re done with the struggle. No more physical ordeals. No more being wet and sandy. No more sleep deprivation. And no more opportunity to be part of a…

Behaviors, Consequences, and Alignment

By supporting Trump a person supports: Racist ideas and policies Sexist ideas and policies Xenophobic ideas and policies Anti-science ideas and policies Anti-environment ideas and policies Massive amounts of outright lying (20K+ false and misleading statements in 3.5 years) Massive amounts of incompetence Treasonous collusion Direct election interference Tweeting instead of leading Tons of utter…

Fragile vs Resilient Relationships

My relationship with Rachelle is very anti-fragile. Even when one or both of us is at our worst or when there’s a lot of turmoil going on around us, there’s little risk to our relationship. We can say or do the stupidest things, and we still stick like glue. We have plenty of freedom to…

Framing Yourself Into a Corner

It’s good to be aware of the potential risk of framing yourself into a corner when you’re faced with a tricky situation. Suppose you’re in a relationship, and you catch your partner kissing someone else. How do you frame that situation? It may depend on the details of course, like the type of kiss or…

Stamped From the Beginning

Today I finished Ibram X. Kendi’s book Stamped From the Beginning, which is about the history of racist ideas in the USA. I found it insightful and eye-opening, and it gave me some meaningful perspective shifts on racism. I’m glad I read this book after White Fragility because the former book was much more lightweight,…

I Registered to Vote

After decades of never voting in any election, I finally registered to vote for the first time ever. My registration is nonpartisan. I’m not a member of any political party. Some would say that I should have remedied this long ago. Why did I wait so long? Partly I’ve been stuck with an old frame…

Core of Play

While pondering an update to my mission statement, I was thinking about how to frame relationships, and this line popped into my mind: My relationships are based on play. My relationship with Rachelle fits this like a glove, and I think it’s why we’ve had 10+ happy years together. Same goes for my best friendships.…