Words Are Actions

Some people claim that actions matter and words alone don’t count for much. That philosophy may be popular, but it isn’t based in truth. Words matter tremendously. Words are actions, and they absolutely do count – at least as much as any other form of action does. Words influence people. Words create impact, even when…

How to Get Into Star Trek

This article idea was suggested by a Conscious Growth Club member. After a little reflection, I thought, why not? I’ve seen every episode of every non-animated Star Trek series, including the original 1960s classic, The Next Generation, Deep Space Nine, Voyager, Enterprise, Discovery, and the new Picard series. I’ve seen many episodes multiple times. I’ve…

Training and Performance

In many jobs your working hours are performance hours. You’re expected to do the work that creates value. If you’re a programmer, you get paid to program. If you’re a lawyer, you get paid to help people solve legal problems. But in some jobs, performance is just a small slice of paid time on the…

Manifesting to Avoid Confrontation

One wonky way that people try to apply the Law of Attraction is by attempting to bypass an unpleasant confrontation. Instead of attracting what they want, they’re partly trying to skip over what they don’t want. Examples include trying to avoid: a difficult break-up conversation with a relationship partner firmly clarifying boundaries with a friend…

Batch Blogging

Almost all of the articles I’ve posted this year – or ever, actually – were written on the same day they were published. It’s been my blogging style for the past 16 years to write and edit posts in a single writing session and then to publish them when they’re complete. This year is unusual…

Ass-Kicking Frames

Here’s a really simple idea that can be useful for self-motivation. Sometimes our frames are too flabby, giving us lots of leeway to drop the ball and slack off. In such cases it may be useful to adopt harsher frames, at least temporarily, to demand more from ourselves. Here are some of these ass-kicking frames…

Your #1 Priority May Lead You Astray

While it’s good to set goals and establish priorities, there’s a risk when you become myopically focused on a single outcome. Single mindedness can be okay for a while if you’re progressing nicely, but if you’ve gotten stuck and the needle isn’t moving, this stuckness can prevent you from making progress in any area of…

Fragile Habits

Some habits are more fragile than others. Once established, some habits are very delicate. If you miss a day or try to alter them, it’s easy to knock them out of place completely and see them fade out. Other habits are more resilient. You can push and prod them, change them in different ways, and…

Your Giant Pumpkin

One of my favorite business books is The Pumpkin Plan by Mike Michalowicz. It uses the analogy of growing giant pumpkins and applies it to building a business. The basic idea is to figure out who your best customers or clients are, so you can specifically tailor your business to serving them well. Then ideally…

Pre-Consent in Relationships

One of the most delicious phrases to hear in a sexual encounter is, “You can do whatever you want with me.” Mmmm! That’s a form of pre-consent. In that case it’s perhaps overly broad, and there may be some hidden boundaries to discover along the way, but it really opens the door to less constrained…