One wonky way that people try to apply the Law of Attraction is by attempting to bypass an unpleasant confrontation. Instead of attracting what they want, they’re partly trying to skip over what they don’t want.
Examples include trying to avoid:
- a difficult break-up conversation with a relationship partner
- firmly clarifying boundaries with a friend or family member
- talking to one’s boss about leaving a job
- renegotiating with creditors
- being criticized for making a decision that others may dislike
Trying to use manifesting to bypass a confrontation doesn’t normally work well, and I think the reason is simple: The fear vibe gets woven into your intention.
Your fears and worries about an unpleasant confrontation speak at least as loudly to the universe as your desire to sneak around it. Consequently, the fear keeps you stuck right where you are.
A better approach is to get aligned with the truth of what life is presenting. Instead of fussing and worrying over a potential confrontation, you’re better off turning towards it and dealing with it. See it as a courage or growth challenge. It’s an invitation to sculpt your character.
It’s okay to visualize past an unpleasant confrontation and focus on what you want to experience beyond it, but do this with an attitude of surrender to the inevitable confrontation – that confrontation may be part of your exit process.
If you’re going to use the LoA, invite and seek to align with whatever it takes to transition. Don’t just invite the end of the chain while trying to bypass what may be a crucial middle step. Get aligned with the whole transition process as well as the new result you’re seeking.
Otherwise if you block part of the chain of events, you’ll likely block the whole chain and thereby prevent yourself from transitioning at all.
Now you may not actually need to experience the confrontation, but you’re more likely to experience it if you fear it. If you can surrender to the inevitability of a confrontation, the irony is that your surrender may allow you to bypass it.
Sometimes the LoA works like a bank that loans you money only when you don’t need it. If you fear a confrontation, you probably need to have the growth experience of going through it. But if you don’t fear it, you communicate to reality that it would be pointless or unnecessary, so you may very well be able to skip it. For instance, instead of having to tell your boss that you’re quitting, you may be surprised to be laid off with a severance package instead.
If wishful thinking about skipping a confrontation infects your intentions though, I’d say you’re adding more fuel to make that confrontation inevitable. That’s okay though. We all need to go through some confrontation training to fully develop our characters – this helps us grow stronger in the long run.
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