making your home work
A number of people I’ve talked to lately are going through a big transition in their lives: The list goes on and on — lots of us are going through a transition period. And what you might notice is that this can feel really groundless — the solid ground we like under our feet just isn’t there. It feels uncertain, and …
Two of my favorite authors on the topic of marriage, Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt, wrote something called The Zero Negativity Guide for Couples. I haven’t tried this method in my marriage, but I’ve found that the approach is very powerful as a general approach to our lives.
Changing a habit — whether it’s forming a new one like journaling, or quitting an old one like smoking — can be a frustrating endeavor for a lot of us. The way it usually goes: get started when you’re struck by motivation, commit as hard as you can, and then kind of white-knuckle it for a week or two. And then life …
We’re always seeking more information, the perfect methods, the right system — as if more and more were the answer to what we’re trying to do. But no matter what you’re up to — trying to take action in your life, create something from a deeper place, take your business or leadership to the next level — more …
When we have clarity, we can be incredibly motivated and purposeful. When we don’t have clarity, we get stuck, demotivated, overwhelmed. For example: if you knew the most important thing to work on right now, with absolute certainty, and you were clear how crucial it is to what you care about — you’d probably give it …
When I was in my 20s, I really tried to be as productive as I could — and that usually meant rushing through things, pressuring myself to do more, and acting from a sense of urgency. I think this is how most of us are trained, culturally: Productivity = urgency, pressure, rushing, have to perform well But as many of …
Our lives are filled with so many inputs, it can all just feel like noise — emails, messages, tasks, meetings, news, social media and more. We get overwhelmed, and often shut down or avoid. Too many priorities, too much information, too many inputs, too much noise. The secret is to find the signal in all this noise. …
A lot of us rush through our day, our tasks, our emails and messages … because of a sense of being behind on everything. This is fine, but there’s a hidden cost that I call “Life Debt.” In programming, there’s a concept called “tech debt” … basically, it’s the idea that when you take the shortcuts now, you owe some …